Aim: To discover what a friend is like

What is friendship? How do you know that a person is your true friend?

We continue to look at the story of David and focus on his friendship with Jonathan, which lasted even when they were separated from each other.

A friend shares 

“…Jonathan sealed the pact by taking off his robe and giving it to David, together with his tunic, sword and belt.” 1 Samuel 18:4

Jonathan was much richer than David because he was a prince, so he gave clothes to David and food to eat. He also taught David how to use other weapons. David only knew how to use a sling shot but Jonathan taught him how to use a bow and arrow and a sword as well.

Does not show off

Jonathan was rich and David was a Shepherd’s boy but Jonathan didn’t rub it in  David’s face that he was much better off. David killed Goliath, the philistine giant when no one else in Israel dared to do so, but David did not constantly remind Jonathan or make Jonathan feel like a coward. Both boys had merits, strengths and weaknesses but they did not show off to each other.

Is not bossy

Imagine, David lived in the palace. He lived in Jonathan’s house. Have you ever had a friend over to your place? Then you would know how hard it can be to do what they want to do and let them play with your things. But like a good friend, we should share with others and not be bossy. Take turns doing what you want to do as well as what your friends want to do.

There are a lot of things that Jesus wants for us. He wants to be in your life, he wants you to pray and he wants you to let him help you. But he does not tell you what to do. Like Jonathan and David, he lets you learn and try things out on your own.

A true friend stands up for you

“The next morning Jonathan spoke with his father about David, saying many good things about him.” -1 Samuel 19:4

When King Saul realized that God had chosen David to be the next king, he was angry and scared. He wanted his own son to become the next king. So he ordered Jonathan to kill David.

But Jonathan would not kill his best friend.

He told Saul; “David has killed Goliath for us and has helped us win many battles against our enemies. Why do you want to kill him? There is no reason for it at all!”

A good friend resists peer pressure and does not form opinions of their friends based on what someone else says about them. A good friend finds out for them-self what a person is like and does something if their friend is going through an injustice.

A good friend helps one another.

“Tell me what I can do to help you…” 1 Samuel 20:4

How far would you go to help a friend in need?

David insisted that Saul wanted to kill him. Jonathan could not let that happen and he promised David that he would help him. This meant going against Saul and disobeying his father. It meant not becoming king one day.

King Saul knew that David had escaped and that Jonathan had helped him.

Saul said to Jonathan:

“Don’t you know that while David is still alive, you can never be king?” (1 Samuel 20:31)

How do you think Jonathan felt? I’m sure he felt like he had just let down his father. But I think he was also happy for David to be king. It meant that David would take his place but it also meant that Israel would have a strong and wise leader as their king.

A good friend is not jealous. 

It can be really hard to happy for our friends when our own life has not lifted up much. Our friend just got married or is having her third baby, or just got a promotion. It is so easy to compare our life and disappointments with other people’s life and achievements. But just because everyone lives different  lives and have different ups and downs, doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t be happy for our friends even in the midst of our own unhappy moments.

The bible says Jonathan loved David as much as he loved himself. He was willing to let David be next in line tot he throne instead of himself. He disobeyed his father and was loyal to David. He even risked his life for David-King Saul was angry that Jonathan was helping David so he threw spears at his own son. Thank goodness he missed.


Think carefully who your friends are. What makes them your friend?

A lot of Christians think of God as their king, father or their saviour. But let me tell you, God is many things. Jesus is all of the above and more. He is your friend.

Think about it.

Jesus shares his inheritance as the Prince of Peace with you.

Because of Jesus, we are made royalty and made to be prosperous in all that we do. Jesus is not bossy but rather he shows us “the way, the truth and the light”, he even prayed on our behalf near the time of his death. He is available 24/7 to help us when we need up or just to listen when we need to talk.